Andre Dubus
Fear is a ghost; embrace your fear, and all you’ll see in your arms is yourself.Collection: Fear
One of the things I learned about writing a memoir is you can’t drag the reader through everything. Every human life is worth 20 memoirs.Collection: Writing
We are all living this dance and it is clearly fraught with making choices. Lots of my choices are bad and that's normal. None of us are attractive at all times. What is attractive to me is authenticity.Collection: Choices
I have always known that writing fiction had little effect on the world; that if it did, young men would not have gone to war after The Iliad.Collection: War
It is not hard to live through a day, if you can live through a moment. What creates despair is the imagination, which pretends there is a future, and insists on predicting millions of moments, thousands of days, and so drains you that you cannot live the moment at hand.Collection: Hands
I think the writer's job is to paint the gray because no life is clearly defined.Collection: Jobs
The truth is life is full of joy and full of great sorrow, but you can't have one without the other.Collection: Joy
I see a lot of marriages crash and burn around me and my wife. I've always been curious about how hard it is to love well and be loved.Collection: Wife
I've learned over the years that the writing is smarter and far larger than the writer and his or her own desires for it.Collection: Writing
And I felt more like me than I ever had, as if the years I'd lived so far had formed layers of skin and muscle over myself that others saw as me when the real one had been underneath all along, and I knew writing- even writing badly- had peeled away those layers, and I knew then that if I wanted to stay awake and alive, if I wanted to stay me, I would have to keep writing.Collection: Real
We receive and we lose, and we must try to achieve gratitude; and with that gratitude to embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses.Collection: Gratitude
Romance dies hard, because its very nature is to want to live.Collection: Romance
Don't outline your stories. A lot of fiction workshops say you should. I say the opposite. I quote Grace Paley: "We write what we don't know we know."Collection: Writing
What's so exciting and terrifying about the writing process is that it really is an act of exploration and discovery. With all of us, not just writers, there is a sort of knowledge of the other. We have a lot more in common than we realize, and I think writing is really a sustained act of empathy.Collection: Writing
There are some beautiful books out there. But the ones that leave me cold are the ones where I feel—it’s that postmodern thing—it’s more experimentation with language than it is a deep compassionate falling into another human being’s experience.Collection: Beautiful
I really think that if there's any one enemy to human creativity, especially creative writing, it's self-consciousness.Collection: Writing
I read poetry every day. I love the boiled down essence of poetry. I look for poetry in prose. In a way that evocative.Collection: Essence
My own sense of the world is that very little is absolute or black and white or easily understood. I suppose in all my writing I'm trying to cast the reader into this spiritually ambivalent dream world, which hopefully mirrors more honestly the complex reality we find ourselves in.Collection: Dream
Short story writers simply do what human beings have always done. They write stories because they have to; because they cannot rest until they have tried as hard as they can to write the stories. They cannot rest because they are human, and all of us need to speak into the silence of mortality, to interrupt and ever so briefly stop that quiet flow, and with stories try to understand at least some of it.Collection: Writing
What is art if not a concentrated and impassioned effort to make something with the little we have, the little we see?Collection: Art
I love short stories because I believe they are the way we live.Collection: Short Love
It is not hard to live through a day, if you can live through a moment.Collection: Moments
I think what I love most [about writing] is that feeling that you really nailed something. Sometimes with a line you feel that it really captured what it is that you had inside you and you got it out for a stranger to read, someone who may never love you or meet you, but he or she is going to get that experience from that line.Collection: Love You
Don't quit. It's very easy to quit during the first 10 years. Nobody cares whether you write or not, and it's very hard to write when nobody cares one way or the other. You can't get fired if you don't write, and most of the time you don't get rewarded if you do. But don't quit.Collection: Writing
But the writer who endures and keeps working will finally know that writing the book was something hard and glorious, for at the desk a writer must try to be free of prejudice, meanness of spirit, pettiness, and hatred; strive to be a better human being than the writer normally is, and to do this through concentration on a single word, and then another, and another. This is splendid work, as worthy and demanding as any, and the will and resilience to do it are good for the writer's soul.Collection: Book
Even a day writing badly for me is 10 times better than a day where I don’t write at all.Collection: Writing
I love short stories because I believe they are the way we live. They are what our friends tell us, in their pain and joy, their passion and rage, their yearning and their cry against injustice.Collection: Short Love
That was the source of my vanity and my cowardice: always I believed everyone was watching me.Collection: Vanity
Proportion is all; and, in sports at school, I lost it by surrendering to the awful significance of my self-consciousness. Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people.Collection: Sports
As a young victim of bullying and then, later, a vindictive perpetrator of violence myself, I've known both sides of this experience, and I tried very hard in the writing here to be as absolutely honest as I possibly could, to not romanticize myself or my past actions or cowardly inactions in any way.Collection: Bullying
Talent is cheap. What really matters is discipline.Collection: Discipline
Teaching well draws from the same well that writing draws from: the reserves of compassion and ability to listen and concentrate on another. So I have to have fine line between teaching and writing. I try not to ever think of career. I just try to go to the dream world every day.Collection: Dream
After the dead are buried, after the physical pain of grief has become a permanent wound in the soul, then comes the transcendent and common bond of human suffering, and with that comes forgiveness, and with forgiveness comes love.Collection: Pain
For the twenty million Americans who are hungry tonight, for the homeless freezing tonight, literature is as useless as a knowledge of astronomy.Collection: Twenties
Travel by air is not travel at all, but simply a change of location; so my wife and daughter and I went to San Francisco by train, leaving Boston on a Wednesday morning in June and, then after lunch in New York, boarding Amtrak's Broadway to Chicago.Collection: Daughter
I love the earth too much to contemplate a life apart from it, although I believe in that life.Collection: Believe
I wonder if politicians know less about the land, now that they campaign by air.Collection: Air
my belief in the sacrament of the Eucharist is simple: without touch, God is a monologue, an idea, a philosophy; he must touch and be touched, the tongue on flesh, and that touch is the result of the monologues, the idea, the philosophies which led to faith; but in the instant of the touch there is no place for thinking, for talking; the silent touch affirms all that, and goes deeper: it affirms the mysteries of love and mortality.Collection: Philosophy
Wanting to know absolutely what a story is about, and to be able to say it in a few sentences, is dangerous: it can lead us to wanting to possess a story as we possess a cup... A story can always break into pieces while it sits inside a book on a shelf; and, decades after we have read it even twenty times, it can open us up, by cut or caress, to a new truth.Collection: Book
For ritual allows those who cannot will themselves out of the secular to perform the spiritual, as dancing allows the tongue-tied man a ceremony of love.Collection: Spiritual
I think some people see those three numbers 9/ 11 and they walk away. That might be changing now. People are more willing to step into an artistic exploration of that subject. All you can do is let it goCollection: Thinking
I know I learn a lot from the students in my class and I'm not just saying that to sound like some generous teacher.Collection: Teacher
People fascinate the hell out of me. I never get tired of watching people, listening to people. The best part is not getting up in front of people but meeting people.Collection: Tired