Emily Yoffe
Obama's major accomplishment is himself. This can be an effective argument to make to undecided voters and something Obama has to artfully address.Collection: Accomplishment
Interfering, judgmental, and disrespectful mothers-in-law are common complaints.Collection: Mother
When you have a life milestone happen, it's good to step back and reassess the things you thought you knew about yourself.Collection: Steps
Sometimes people back themselves into corners where they think they have to make kind of an engraved-in-stone decision.Collection: Thinking
I marvel with distress that in 2015 we are fighting the vaccination wars. It is deeply disturbing that people who should be able to weigh discredited so-called studies instead believe garbage, and so are willing to endanger their children and others. I sincerely hope this madness burns itself out before a lot more people get hurt.Collection: Hurt
I'm not a big advocate of living together before marriage. It can be the right thing, but it can also leave two people stuck together who haven't figured out what they really want out of the relationship.Collection: Two
I hate a messy kitchen and my more casual husband has come to recognize it's more pleasant for him to clean up after himself rather than deal with me hating a messy kitchen.Collection: Husband
The human heart is a mysterious and sometimes dark place.Collection: Heart
Accept the fact that life presents us with opportunities to find more than one "one", and that you have learned a mighty life lesson when the next one comes along.Collection: Life Lesson
I agree that not responding, and blocking his email, is the way to deal with the man you hope falls silent again.Collection: Block
If you didn't want to be written about, you shouldn't have been born to a writer!Collection: Want
It's just not right to make an innocent child suffer because of the father's misdeeds.Collection: Children
The biggest problem is that people want to tell the whole story, and they write letters that are way longer than anything I could possibly run.Collection: Running
I've never gotten a letter where I thought I knew the person. But I have heard from people who think they know the letter writer.Collection: Thinking
Once an affair is over, the cheaters need to agree not to see each other anymore in order to reestablish trust with their spouses.Collection: Cheater
I try to direct people in distress to the right resources, where they can get comprehensive help. I've heard from many people that simply putting down in a letter what is going on in their lives is therapeutic in and of itself.Collection: People
I do feel haunted by some of the letters and the suffering people have endured. But I keep in mind that the people who write to me know that I am a journalist and an on-line advice columnist, not a social service professional.Collection: Writing
Each week I am forced to revise my original opinion that Facebook is a great innovation for keeping people in touch, to believing that it is merely a canvas for members to act out strange, unresolved conflicts and desires.Collection: Believe
My inbox [showed me] how much pain there is in the world. I appreciated hearing from people, but it was hard to know I couldn't do anything.Collection: Pain
Аs I've mentioned many times, sitting through graduation ceremonies is one of life's drearier milestones.Collection: Milestone
You may think you're married to a woman, but she's really an overgrown child.Collection: Children
The only solution seems to be for government to toughen the vaccination laws and close the loopholes that allow people to opt out for philosophical and so-called religious reasons. The laws need to make clear: no shot, no school.Collection: Religious
Setting up a college fund would be a great way to redirect the tangible evidence of Daddy's love.Collection: College
I spent most of my 20s dating older men, and I really wish I had spent that time dating men my own age who were going through the same experiences I was. I totally understand the appeal of a mature, dashing older man over fellow twenty-somethings who are still figuring things out. And, true, a fling with an older man can be instructive in many ways, and no doubt he finds you attractive.Collection: Men
It is a mystery why people think they need to act as their friends' dietitian, nonetheless it's common.Collection: Thinking
I can't imagine anything that would signal more clearly that life goes on and joy can follow tragedy than your having a much wanted child.Collection: Children
Never loan money to friends or family that you are not able to write off entirely.Collection: Writing
Unless you work at the Republican National Committee or some other conservatively affiliated organization, people's personal political preferences should not be a criterion for employment or comfort in the workplace.Collection: Political
Sure, people talk about all kinds of stuff at the office, but surely everyone has better things to do than sound like they're auditioning for Fox News.Collection: People
Love is not shown by giving your toddler a car. It's better demonstrated by clapping as she bangs on pots or singing to her while she plays with her cheap little bath toys in the tub.Collection: Love Is
You can't get a guarantee from everyone who appears in personal photographs that they will forever remain warm presences in one's life or sweet memories.Collection: Sweet
I think it's helpful for kids to know that their parents weren't perfect, that they messed up and learned from their mistakes. So be open about some of your own struggles or express gratitude that your kids are taking advantage of the opportunities they have instead of squandering many of them, the way you did.Collection: Gratitude
I am against lying, but just because someone asks a question does not mean you have to answer it.Collection: Lying
I'm certainly not suggesting legalization of polyamory. But it's also unfairly judgmental of you to compare such relationships to the criminal acts of bestiality or child sexual abuse.Collection: Children
Polygamy has an ancient history and is legal in many parts of the world. I find the rules of polygamy to be damaging and it's potentially dangerous to young girls and terrible for "excess" boys. But polyamory is supposed to be a more equal arrangement among agreeing adults.Collection: Girl
When you expand the definition of marriage beyond one man and one woman, society can expect other consenting adults in other configurations to say that their choices deserve recognition.Collection: Men
I understand polyamory is different from polygamy, and doesn't share the latter's rigid and noxious views that men run the show and are the only ones allowed multiple partners.Collection: Running
Keep in mind that when you tell people to come see you, they might not get the idea about when it's time to leave.Collection: Ideas
Don't underestimate the power of the nonplussed look and the shake of the head. Letting noxious words hang in the air can be very powerful.Collection: Powerful
As far as types preferring other types, people of the same type can understand each others' perspective very well, but also drive each other crazy because they see their flaws magnified.Collection: Crazy
If you look at books that describe the 16 personality types, you can see how different they are from each other.Collection: Book
Extreme picky eaters may have what's called Selective Eating Disorder. People with this experience physical and psychological discomfort over certain tastes, smells, textures.Collection: Smell
When you're dealing with an in-law violation, I think the first line of defense is for the blood relation to have a serious talk.Collection: Thinking
I'm wondering how someone who goes around wearing a wedding ring succeeded in the dating pool. Normally a wedding ring sends a flashing "Do Not Enter" message - except to those looking for flings with married people.Collection: People
An alcoholic 47-year-old woman with teenagers who thinks a guy in his mid-20s is a good prospect as a partner definitely has some judgment and character flaws.Collection: Teenager
Most women at some point or many points in their lives will have to deal with an unwanted advance and having the confidence to be "rude" and say no is an important skill to develop.Collection: Skills
Children need adult men in their lives.Collection: Children
Sometimes people have a wild past because they have an essentially wild nature, and that's how they plan to go through life. Sometimes such people settle into happy monogamy, and can be content there because they never have to wonder, "What did I miss?"Collection: Past
Anyone who marries gets no guarantee that their partner, no matter what they vow, will always keep that promise.Collection: Guarantees That
When people are really drunk they have a propensity to harm themselves and others - they fall off buildings, they drive into other cars.Collection: Fall