We have to be women we want our daughters to be.Collection: Daughter
Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from taking flight.Collection: Thinking
Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart.Collection: Business
Cruelty is easy, cheap and rampant.Collection: Easy
The only universal language I know of that wraps up joy and gratitude and love is laughter.Collection: Gratitude
Courage, the original definition of courage, when it first came into the English language -- it's from the Latin word "cor," meaning "heart" - and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.Collection: Latin
If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.Collection: Inspirational
It's about showing up. And sometimes I don't do it. I almost always regret it, but sometimes I don't do it. Sometimes I walk into a situation where I'm intimidated and I want to be liked and I want to fit in, and I don't choose authenticity. And it's always pretty miserable.Collection: Regret
There is nothing more vulnerable than creativity. . . It's not about winning, it's not about losing, it's about showing up and being seen.Collection: Creativity
I only share when I have no unmet needs that I'm trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.Collection: Believe
Sufficiency isn't two steps up from poverty or one step short of abundance. It isn't a measure of barely enough or more than enough. Sufficiency isn't an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough.Collection: Two
Creativity, which is the expression of our originality, helps us stay mindful that what we bring to the world is completely original and cannot be compared.Collection: Creativity
Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance.Collection: Acceptance
The credit belongs to those of us who are actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. We strive valiantly and sometimes there's the triumph of achievement but at the worst, we fail, but at least we fail while daring greatly." That has really changed my life. Profoundly changed my life.Collection: Blood
I’m not very creative” doesn’t work. There’s no such thing as creative people and non-creative people. There are only people who use their creativity and people who don’t. Unused creativity doesn’t just disappear. It lives within us until it’s expressed, neglected to death, or suffocated by resentment and fear.Collection: Motivational
Fear is the opposite of love, in my opinion.Collection: Opposites
Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.Collection: Courage
When we numb [hard feelings], we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness.Collection: Gratitude
What makes something better is connection.Collection: Connections
The truth is, I'm a storyteller. And it scares me, because my training as an academic is that the more accessible you are and the more human you are, the less smart you are. It's a shame trigger for me to be honest.Collection: Smart
Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy.Collection: Giving Up
In a highly critical, scarcity-based world, everyone's afraid to fail. As long as we're afraid to fail, we'll never come up with the big, bold ideas we need to solve these problems.Collection: Ideas
Shame: We all have it. It's that gremlin that says 'I'm not enough.' Or, if you're feeling pretty confident,...'ooh, who do you think you are?' Shame always has a seat.Collection: Thinking
I think a lot of us are looking for the same thing. I feel very lucky to have a definitive moment where I know everything shifted in me, and it was the moment I read that quote. Because I thought, A. That's everything I know about vulnerability. It's not winning, it's not losing, it's showing up and being seen. B. That's who I want to be.Collection: Thinking
If we want to cultivate hopefulness, we have to be willing to be flexible and demonstrate perseverance. Not every goal will look and feel the same. Tolerance for disappointment, determination, and a belief in self are the heart of hope.Collection: Perseverance
Perfectionism is self destructive simply because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.Collection: Self
Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous... I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives.Collection: Emotional
Knowledge is only rumor until it lives in the bones.Collection: Rumor
Think about what’s pleasurable, not just what’s possible.Collection: Thinking
Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?Collection: Children
When you don't put your initials behind your name, and I've got tons of them, and when you talk about storytelling or love or gratitude, you're diminishing your legitimacy and importance in this world.Collection: Gratitude
Someone asked me very recently why I have 8 million views on TED - "your work resonates, what are you doing?" What I think my contribution is, what I do well, is I name experiences that are very universal that no one really talks about. That's the researcher in me; that's really part of being a grounded theory researcher - putting names to concepts and experiences that people have. That's the researcher part.Collection: Thinking
Vulnerability is the absolute heartbeat of innovation and creativity. There can be zero innovation without vulnerability.Collection: Zero
When they teach [doctors] how to suture, they also teach them how to stitch their self-worth to being all-powerful.Collection: Motivation
I don't just want someone who says they love me; I want someone who practices that love for me every day.Collection: Practice
But I don't think it's as dangerous, scary, or terrifying as getting to the end of our lives and wondering, what if I would have shown up?Collection: Thinking
Perfection is crucial in building an aircraft, a bridge, or a high-speed train. The code and mathematics residing just below the surface of the Internet is also this way. Things are either perfectly right or they will not work. So much of the world we work and live in is based upon being correct, being perfect.Collection: Bridges
We would solve a lot of huge problems that are causing massive suffering. Poverty, violence, homophobia, heterosexism, racism, the environment - all these things that are crippling us. We need big, bold, dangerous, crazy ideas to solve these problems. When failure is not an option, innovation and creativity are not options.Collection: Crazy
I wasn't really testing it on myself as much as I was learning from other people about what it meant to live and love with your whole heart, and then thinking, oh my god, I'm not doing that.Collection: Love You
There really is "no effort without error and shortcoming" and there really is no triumph without vulnerability.Collection: Errors
Everything that these folks are saying that they're trying to move away from, like comparison, perfectionism, judgement, and exhaustion as a status symbol - that all describes my life. It was more like a medical researcher studying a disease and figuring out he or she has it.Collection: Moving
I believe joy is a spiritual practice we have to work at.Collection: Spiritual
We're raising children who have little tolerance for disappointmentCollection: Children
When we're defined by what people think we lose the courage to be vulnerable.Collection: Thinking
We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affectionCollection: Spiritual
One of the reasons we judge each other so harshly in this world of parenting is because... we perceive anyone else who's doing anything differently than what we're doing as criticizing our choices.Collection: Judging
The opposite of play is not work—the opposite of play is depression.Collection: Motivation
To live with courage, purpose, and connection - to be the person whom we long to be - we must again be vulnerable. We must ... show up, and let ourselves be seen.Collection: Long
Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all we see is our flawed selves, alone and struggling.(page 68)Collection: Struggle