Brené Brown
We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time.Collection: Pain
We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can't use shame to change ourselves or others.Collection: Change
It was scary. But it was so liberating. I thought, This is not predetermined - I get to choose. There are some days where I have to choose five times in a day. I had to make a choice when you called and the phone rang, whether I'm going to show up and be me, or whether I'm going to say what I think I'm supposed to say and get off the phone.Collection: Thinking
We cannot give our children what we don’t have.Collection: Children
When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak.Collection: People
In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.Collection: Order
We teach what we have to learn. It's been an extraordinary journey that I couldn't have done with not only the research participants but the community, the tribe that we've built of people who are also on this journey.Collection: Journey
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable...If we speak shame, it begins to wither. Just the way exposure to light was deadly for the gremlins, language and story bring light to shame and destroy it.Collection: Light
All the stuff that keeps you safe from feeling scary emotions? They also keep you from feeling the good emotions. You have to shake those off. You have to become vulnerable.Collection: Scary
Knowledge is important, but only if we're being kind and gentle with ourselves as we work to discover who we are.Collection: Positivity
Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations.Collection: Mindfulness
Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.Collection: Letting Go
Believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic.Collection: Giving
Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.Collection: Joy
Vulnerability is not about winning, and it’s not about losing. It’s about having the courage to show up and be seen.Collection: Winning
Self-compassion is key because when we’re able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we’re more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy.Collection: Compassion
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.Collection: Joy
Courage, the original definition of courage, when it first came into the English language – it’s from the Latin word cor, meaning heart – and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.Collection: Stories
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.Collection: Gratitude
Compassion is not a virtue – it is a commitment. It’s not something we have or don’t have – it’s something we choose to practice.Collection: Commitment
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.Collection: Understanding
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.Collection: Stories
Live-tweeting your bikini wax is not vulnerability. Nor is posting a blow-by-blow of your divorce. That’s an attempt to hot-wire connection. But you can’t cheat real connection. It’s built up slowly. It’s about trust and time.Collection: Real