Iyanla Vanzant
Who you are is strong enough to bare your painCollection: Strong
The process of life is ever unfolding, guiding you, pushing you, preparing you for the next part of the process. Difficult challenges, bad days, upset feelings, moments of confusion are part of life's process. Perhaps these things are there to keep us alert, to make us stronger, or to test our resolve to keep moving forward.Collection: Moving
To me, freedom means having the power, the inherent right, the capacity and the ability to make choices that honour who I am.Collection: Freedom
Create what you want as opposed to being stuck in what you didn't have.Collection: Want
In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over.Collection: Issues
Right where you are is where you need to be. Don't fight it! Don't run away from it! Stand firm! Take a deep breath. And another. And another. Now, ask yourself: Why is this in my world? What do I need to see?Collection: Running
Forgive yourself for believing things about yourself that are not true. Forgive yourself for believing that you were anything other than a child of God. Then, after forgiving yourself for believing the things you were told, forgive the people who told you. Forgive them not for what they said or did. Forgive them because they did not know any better.Collection: Children
Have the courage to speak your mind and tell the truth from a position of love rather than anger or fear, being open to accept the views of others without feeling threatened or defeated, relinquishing the ego's need to be in control by demonstrating the willingness to do whatever it takes to establish peace.Collection: Views
Spirit is the key to everything we desire. It is our weather-proofing, our Teflon, our line of credit that assures if we just keep putting one foot in front of the other, one day; there will be a miraculous payoff.Collection: Keys
Regardless of how hard, challenging, frightening, or difficult an experience may seem, everything is just as it needs to be in order for us to heal, grow, and learn.Collection: Order
Challenges come so we can grow and be prepared for things we are not equipped to handle now. When we face our challenges with faith, prepared to learn, willing to make changes, and if necessary, to let go, we are demanding our power be turned on.Collection: Motivational
The beloved is one who nurtures you, trusts you, supports you, encourages you, loves you without conditions. That's you.Collection: Love You
If you heart had a voice, Beloved, what would it say?Collection: Heart
When you really believe that you are worthy of the best, that you deserve the best & that there is enough of the best for you to have plenty, there will be no need for you to hold on to what you have. Allow yourself to imagine what your life would be like if your hands and heart were to receive something better than what you are holding onto right now.Collection: Believe
We cannot expect to be in control of the circumstances in our lives when we cannot control our minds for five minutes. Meditation is the daily minimum requirement that will prevent us from breaking down and falling apart at the most inopportune moments. It is the art of listening. It is a practice which enables us to tune in and fine-tune the key areas of our lives: the mind and the spirit.Collection: Art
People are hurting. People are suffering. But you can not get everywhere.Collection: Hurt
What we must realize is that we cannot see everything. We do not know everything. More important, we must understand that it is impossible for us to control anything. The process of life is a spiritual one, governed by invisible, intangible spiritual laws and principles.Collection: Spiritual
Forgive everybody for everything. Just forgive and start - most of us can't start with ourselves. We have to forgive the people we think did things to us. So that's fine. Start there - wherever. Start with the dog who peed on the rug. I don't care where you start, just do it.Collection: Dog
You are the only one who can do it like you do it. You are the best. You have what it takes. You have the power. When you put your mind to something, you get it done. So what are you waiting for?Collection: Waiting
The goal isn't to be perfect, but to be authentic!Collection: Perfect
Respect you love one enough to know thay can handle your truthCollection: Be True To Yourself
I'm okay, you're okay. Now let's go to work.Collection: Community
When you believe, or are led to believe, you are unable to act upon the greatest desires of the soul, the result is mental and spiritual enslavement.Collection: Spiritual
Until you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.Collection: Pain
When we want to move beyond the pain, when we want to feel better, when we are ready to move beyond where we are, emotionally and spiritually, we must forgive.Collection: Pain
WE [black women] HAVE ADAPTED TO A SOCIETY THAT DOES'NT HONOR US.Collection: Black
Embrace the truth. Speak the truth. Be the truth. When we welcome the truth, we live our lives like it's golden.Collection: Golden
Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt.Collection: Healing
Never judge your clarity based on someone else's response.Collection: Judging
The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don't want.Collection: Letting Go
It’s self-full to be first, to be as good as possible to you. To take care of you, keep you whole and healthy. That doesn’t mean you disregard everything and everyone. But you want to come with your cup full. You know: ‘My cup runneth over.’ What comes out of the cup is for y’all. What’s in the cup is mine. But I’ve got to keep my cup full.Collection: Mean
If it's not your story to tell, you don't tell it.Collection: Stories
When we find ourselves in the same situation repeatedly as a result of our conditioned responses, we must stop and do a new thing. The situation may look different. The route we take there may be altogether different. The lesson we must learn does not change. Get honest! Pay attention! Change what you do to create a change for yourself!Collection: May
When you make a decision and a commitment to do something good for yourself, it is like dropping a pebble in a pond. It has a rippling effect. The firmer the decision, the stronger the frequency and wider the range of things that will be reached.Collection: Commitment
When your life is working there will be an absence of dramaCollection: Positive
Just give yourself permission to tell the truth to yourself.Collection: Giving
When we have peace in our hearts and minds, we draw peace into our lives.Collection: Heart
Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.Collection: Self Esteem
Many of us have a need to be right. We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong. We must get right with ourselves. Once we do, we will have so much to do, we will not have time to keep track of who is wrong.Collection: Track
Speak and live in simple sentences. Bring closure -- put a period to -- those experiences that you don't want to carry on forever and ever. Use commas in those places where you're still growing... and use exclamation points at the end of every lesson.Collection: Simple
We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.Collection: Priorities
You are the love you seek. You are the companionship you desire. You are your own completion, your own wholeness. You are your best friend, your confidant. 'You are,' as poetess Audre Lourde wrote, 'the one that you are looking for.' You are the only one who can do what you are looking for someone else to do.Collection: Love You
Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish, self-centered or self-engrossed. It means that you accept yourself for what you are. Loving yourself means that you accept responsibility for your own development, growth and happiness.Collection: Selfish
People you don't love can't hurt you.Collection: Hurt
If you don't ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.Collection: Needs
When you're the strong one, people don't give you permission to hurt.Collection: Strong
Accept and acknowledge your own brilliance. Stop waiting for others to tell you how great you are! Believe it for yourself and about yourself.Collection: Believe
When two broken people bring their broken pieces together, chances are they will never become a whole anything.Collection: Two
When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else.Collection: Inspirational