Dan Savage
A certain tiny percentage of everyone is gay.
Actual gay people can make many others feel uncomfortable and paranoid because they don't know and can't articulate what makes a person gay, and they worry that maybe they themselves are gay.
A lot of people are living their lives online in much more public ways with Facebook and Twitter.
There are so many people out there with less shame talking about their problems.
I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty.
Every question is a hypothetical question for everyone but the person who asks it.
See, I'm a subverter at heart.
I think the 'South Park' guys are brilliant.
No, I'm not good looking.
So I don't feel particularly wealthy-but, you know, I pay my taxes and I know that I am.
I wanted to be a priest when I was a kid.
I'm an agnosto-theist.
We can learn to ignore the bullshit in the Bible about gay people. The same way we have learned to ignore the bullshit in the Bible about shellfish, about slavery, about dinner, about farming, about menstruation, about virginity, about masturbation.Collection: Bible
No one has ever gone broke underestimating the insecurities of the gay and lesbian consumer.Collection: Gay
Don't mistake being an asshole for being a man.Collection: Mistake
the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it.Collection: Reading
If kids got raped at Denny's as often as they get raped at church it would be illegal to take your kids to Denny's.Collection: Kids
I think astrology is annoying bullshit-which is so Libra of meCollection: Thinking
Today's unspeakable perversion is tomorrow's kink, is next week's good clean funCollection: Fun
I'm always telling people who say two men can't make a baby: 'Anything is possible for God. I'm going to keep inseminating my husband and keep my fingers crossed.'Collection: Baby
We all have our scars. That's what falling is love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who then loves you anyway.Collection: Fall
One person simply can’t be all things to another person – sexually or otherwise—and unmet needs, unfulfilled desire, and unexplored possibilities are prices we pay to be in LTRs (long –term relationships). Monogamous, polyamorous, Femdom, or whatever: All couples people walk around feeling a little unfulfilled. (Single people, too). Because no one gets everything they want.Collection: Couple
The right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means that each of us is free to go our own way, even if the ways some of us may choose to go seem sinful or shocking to our fellow citizens.Collection: Mean
every relationship you are in will fail, until one doesn'tCollection: Failing
You can’t pray away the gay, but you can torture a conflicted closet case to death.Collection: Gay
One man's piss-soaked sadomasochistic orgy is another man's poetic ecstasy.Collection: Men
I'm one of those gay people who's constantly reminded of how fortunate I am to live now and not to be Ennis and Jack [from Brokeback Mountain] or whatever - not that I'd mind being Ennis for half an hour. But it's been so much worse recently. It still is terrible. In Iran, they're hanging gay teenagers. I'm grateful for how far the United States, even with its crazy Christians, has come on a lot of issues. And the fact that I get called a faggot occasionally by a crack addict, while annoying, certainly isn't a lobotomy and prison.Collection: Christian
There's a big mistake the left has made with talking to religious people, which is attempting to talk them out of their interpretations of the Bible, attempting to have theological debate with them. When I'm on right-wing whackjob radio, when people call up to inform me that I'm going to hell, I concede the point. "I'm going to hell. Yes. Can you leave me alone now?"Collection: Religious
the truth is often a mixed messageCollection: Messages
I waver between a cop-out agnostic and principled atheismCollection: Atheism
I always kind of divided the gay guys I met up into two groups when I first started coming out. There were the guys who thought there was something fundamentally wrong with them and hated themselves and were so burdened with shame and internalized homophobia. It just really paralyzed and shredded them. And then there were guys like me who thought, "I'm fine, everybody else is crazy. My church is sick and the family's crazy, but me? I'm fine."Collection: Crazy
Kids are like heroin, a little heroin addiction. When it’s bad, you’ve never been so miserable, but when it’s good you’ve never been so high.Collection: Kids
Shouldn't homophobic politicians and anti-gay bullies be presumed to be gay until they get caught up in a straight sex scandal?Collection: Sex
Take me to the driest county in the most conservative state, and in two hours this determined hedonist will find you all the drugs, whores, and booze you'll need to pass an eventful weekend.Collection: Weekend
...even if gay marriage were legalized there would still be gay men who didn't want to marry, gay men no other gay men would want to marry, and gay men who didn't want to leave the priesthood in order to marry.Collection: Gay
Parenting is about being competent and responsible. It's not about gender, necessarily.Collection: Fathers Day
My dad and mom were more like World War II-era parents, even though it was the 1960s, because they were both born in the '40s. They were young adults before the '60s even happened, and married, and already having kids. But by the time we were adolescents in the '70s, the whole culture was screaming at parents, "You're a good parent if you're open with your kids about sex." They attempted to be open with us about sex, and it made them want to die, and consequently, it made us want to die.Collection: Mom
I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty. I think that's what helps the advice sink in. If somebody comes at you with both barrels, the first shot opens your head, and the second shot allows the advice to get lodged inside.Collection: Writing
Owning a gun in America is one way for conservative white males to demonstrate their anger at crime, liberalism, feminism, and modernity.Collection: Gun
The Bible is a radically pro-slavery document. Slave owners waved Bibles over their heads during the Civil War and justified it.Collection: War
Relationships are monuments build on liesCollection: Lying
I think it's going to take three or four generations of gay people being able to get married before it starts feeling less like we're going through these motions, that we're aping a heterosexual institution.Collection: Gay
I’m searching for some exit poll data from California. I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.Collection: Gay
My husband Terry and I are mostly monogamous. . . . There are times — certain set and limited circumstances — when it is permissible for us to have sex with others.Collection: Sex
TV commercials make parenting look like there are going to be good days and bad days - like, it'll be this gentle wave, like you'll have a blissed-out, really wonderful day or two, and then, you know, then you'll have an issue. And what parenting is, is kind of earthquake.Collection: Good Day
So while gun owners are always saying that owning guns is about defending freedom, the only freedom gun owners seem interested in defending with their guns is the freedom to defend their freedom to own guns.Collection: Gun
We're living through an age of irrationality and religious "fervor" I would call it religious idiocy. It's exhausting to year after year be on the receiving end of this demagoguery.Collection: Religious
I'm not a Pollyanna sort of kumbaya type.Collection: Pollyanna
I'm 52, which means I don't really... I was never a person who celebrated birthdays to begin with. At this stage, it's certainly something that someone who made a big deal out of their birthdays in their 20s and 30s kind of hangs that up. Not because you're sad to be getting older. I'm thrilled to be getting older. I have so many friends who died when they were 25 and would be ecstatic to be here with me turning 50. It's a thrill and a privilege to still be alive.Collection: Mean