Melody Beattie
The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.Collection: New
Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living life in the year to come.Collection: New
We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.Collection: Trust
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.Collection: Thankful
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.Collection: Life
Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.
Live your life fom your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people's souls.
Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.
Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give.
I used to be afraid of pain, didn't take a lot of risks, especially in love. I'm not as afraid anymore. I'm more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think.
Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.
Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.
Twelve-step promotes spirituality, not religion. It gives a practical, day-to-day spirituality that tells me what I can and cannot control. There is room to be imperfect and to be someone who struggles to find God.
Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn't; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not.
There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.
A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.
Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don't.
What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it's our fault, that we're to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves.
It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear.
Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'
Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.
According to some Eastern religion, there is a belt that goes across the world, and I've heard that Minnesota is right in the heart of this spiritual-creative belt of energy.
We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet.
Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people's best interests.
I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn't just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn't aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn't have to be one of desperation.
I gave three years of my life to take care of my dying mother who had Alzheimer's disease. Being there for her every need for three years might have looked codependent but it wasn't because it was what I wanted to do.
In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. It can turn an existence into a real life, and disconnected situations into important and beneficial lessons. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. Gratitude makes things right.Collection: Gratitude
It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong. It takes practice to see what's right.Collection: Practice
Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.Collection: Letting Go
Life is always moving, changing, shifting into its next shape. The movement is natural. It is how we evolve. Let the shifts happen. Take responsibility for yourself each step of the way. Trust the new shape and form of your worldCollection: Moving
Accept yourself. Love yourself just as you are. Your finest work, your best moments, your joy, peace, and healing come when you love yourself. You give a great gift to the world when you do that. You give others permission to do the same: to love themselves. Revel in self love. Roll in it. Bask in it, as you would the sunshine.Collection: Love
We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more.Collection: Effort
Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We’ll set a limit when we’re ready, and not a moment before. So will others. There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed.Collection: Life
I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.Collection: Thinking
Caring works. Caretaking doesn't. We can learn to walk the line between the two.Collection: Caring
Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.Collection: Trying
The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people's business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs.Collection: Inspirational
Embrace and love all of yourself - past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.Collection: Self Esteem
Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.Collection: Letting Go
Let go of your expectations. The universe will do what it will. Sometimes your dreams will come true. Sometimes they won't. Sometimes when you let go of a broken dream, another one gently takes its place. Be aware of what is, not what you would like to be, taking place.Collection: Letting Go
I trust so much in the power of the heart and the soul; I know that the answer to what we need to do next is in our own hearts. All we have to do is listen, then take that one step further and trust what we hear. We will be taught what we need to learn.Collection: Heart
Striving for excellence is a positive quality. Striving for perfection is self-defeating.Collection: Self
Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.Collection: Life
Choosing to take responsibility for ourselves and for the consequences our choices create looks like hard work, but it really sets us free.Collection: Hard Work
We don't just get our choice; we get the consequence that choice creates.Collection: Choices
The more we learn to love and respect ourselves, the more we will become attracted to people who will love and respect us and who we can safely love and respect.Collection: People
No - simple to pronounce, hard to say.Collection: Simple