M. Scott Peck
Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience.Collection: Experience
There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community.Collection: Peace
Ultimately love is everything.Collection: Love
Discipline is wisdom and vice versa.Collection: Wisdom
Until you value yourself, you won't value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.Collection: Time
The whole course of human history may depend on a change of heart in one solitary and even humble individual - for it is in the solitary mind and soul of the individual that the battle between good and evil is waged and ultimately won or lost.Collection: Change
The great awareness comes slowly, piece by piece. The path of spiritual growth is a path of lifelong learning. The experience of spiritual power is basically a joyful one.Collection: Experience
We know a great deal more about the causes of physical disease than we do about the causes of physical health.Collection: Health
Share our similarities, celebrate our differences.
You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.
One extends one's limits only by exceeding them.
The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.
In some ways, I am grateful that I was raised in a secular home, because that meant that I didn't have any old religious baggage to carry with me. I was free to go and think what I wanted.
We cannot solve life's problems except by solving them.
We cannot let another person into our hearts or minds unless we empty ourselves. We can truly listen to him or truly hear her only out of emptiness.
Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit.
A significant regret is that I was not as good a father as I would have ideally liked to be. I was not, I think, a bad father.
It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.
Whenever we seek to avoid the responsibility for our own behavior, we do so by attempting to give that responsibility to some other individual or organization or entity. But this means we then give away our power to that entity.
As far as I am concerned, virtually all psychological diseases have their origin in our conscious minds. And that is not what we are taught.
I've gone to great lengths not to be a guru. I think the notion of guruhood is utterly pathological, and I couldn't live that way. I am just a person.
Since the early 1960s, since what's been called the charismatic movement within the Christian church, a significant number of Christians believe that virtually every problem a human can have is of demonic origin.
Multiple personality disorder and possession are not necessarily mutually incompatible disorders. There's some evidence that you can have both.
I never thought I would ever be middle-of-the-road anything, much less a middle-of-the-road Christian, but it actually ended up I'm extremely middle of the road.
I do not think that everybody has to struggle. But to probably at least half of the people, it never seems to enter their minds that they might be engaged in a struggle or that there might be something to struggle with.
Emotional sickness is avoiding reality at any cost. Emotional health is facing reality at any cost.Collection: Motivational
The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.Collection: Inspirational
Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.Collection: Spiritual
It is in the whole process of meeting and solving problems that life has meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually. It is through the pain of confronting and resolving problems that we learn.Collection: Pain
Since [narcissists] deep down, feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world's fault. Since they must deny their own badness, they must perceive others as bad. They project their own evil onto the world. They never think of themselves as evil, on the other hand, they consequently see much evil in others.Collection: Thinking
Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... Love is as love does. Love is an act of will -- namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.Collection: Spiritual
All human interactions are opportunities either to learn or to teach.Collection: Opportunity
Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costsCollection: Reality
The quickest way to change your attitude toward pain is to accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth.Collection: Change
There is no worse bitterness than to reach the end of your life and realized you have not lived.Collection: Bitterness
Human beings are poor examiners, subject to superstition, bias, prejudice, and a PROFOUND tendency to see what they want to see rather than what is really there.Collection: Profound
Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the making of action in spite of fear.Collection: Inspiring
The overall purpose of human communication is - or should be - reconciliation. It should ultimately serve to lower or remove the walls of misunderstanding which unduly separate us human beings, one from another.Collection: Wall
By far the most important form of attention we can give our loved ones is listening... True listening is love in action.Collection: Giving
Self examination is the key to insight, which is the key to wisdomCollection: Healing
Integrity is never painless.Collection: Integrity
Community [is] a group of individuals who have learned how to communicate honestly with each other, whose relationships go deeper than their masks of composure, and who have developed some significant commitment to "rejoice together, mourn together," and to "delight in each other, make others' conditions our own.Collection: Commitment
Life is complex. Each one of us must make his own path through life. There are no self-help manuals, no formulas, no easy answers. The right road for one is the wrong road for another...The journey of life is not paved in blacktop; it is not brightly lit, and it has no road signs. It is a rocky path through the wilderness.Collection: Journey
We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.Collection: Life
We are most often in the dark when we are the most certain, and the most enlightened when we are the most confused.Collection: Inspirational
Since true listening involves a setting aside of the self, it also temporarily involves a total acceptance of the others. Sensing this acceptance, the speaker will feel less and less vulnerable, and more and more inclined to open up the inner recesses of his or her mind to the listener. As this happens, speaker and listener begin to appreciate each other more and more, and the dance of love is begun again.Collection: Acceptance
Since the primary motive of the evil is disguise, one of the places evil people are most likely to be found is within the church. What better way to conceal one's evil from oneself as well as from others than to be a deacon or some other highly visible form of Christian within our cultureCollection: Christian
Evil people hate the light because it reveals themselves to themselves. ... They will destroy the light, the goodness, the love in order to avoid the pain of self-awareness. ... [E]vil is laziness carried to its ultimate, extraordinary extreme.Collection: Truth
Teach us to number our days aright.Collection: Numbers
Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still elude us. Contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are definitely not seeking it, when it is inconvenient and undesirable.Collection: Falling In Love