Matthew Hussey
We've all grown wary of being lied to online - let's face it, dudes are always exaggerating their heights - so trust is a hot commodity.Collection: Trust
Any online dating profile is about making us more human, more three-dimensional.Collection: Dating
One of the most overwhelming things about dating is imagining going on an entire dinner date for an evening with someone you don't even know you have chemistry with yet.Collection: Dating
We live in a world of social media, dating apps, online profiles where everyone is portraying themselves in 2D, trying to look cool. Portray yourself in three dimensions.Collection: Dating
Halloween might be a time that's renowned for ghosts, but we no longer experience ghosts only on Halloween. In our dating lives, we are now used to being 'ghosted' the whole year round.Collection: Dating
I've spoken to over 10,000 guys in my career, so I know what they think when it comes to dating.Collection: Dating
If you are in a toxic relationship, that poisons you everywhere else in your life.Collection: Relationship
Women in their thirties are much more nervous about dating. They feel time is 'running out for them. They want to get married and have a family. The women I see in their forties and fifties know what they want. They are amazing, confident women with good jobs, but they are just struggling to find someone who is their equal.Collection: Dating
Once a date asked me what I do, so I said that my company empowers women in their dating lives. Her response? 'Aw, that's so cute!' Cute is how my babysitter described me when I was 7 years old. Simple fix: Replace cute with hot and he'll feel like James Bond.Collection: Dating
I honestly believe there is nothing more important in a person's life than love and I want to show women how to have fun and get the best out of dating.Collection: Dating
I once told a date, 'I love what you're wearing!' She replied, 'Aw, thanks. I've gotten so many compliments on it. Yours means the most though!' She didn't need to tell me guys were hitting on her - my imagination went there anyway.Collection: Imagination
Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're successful. You are successful if you are happy.Collection: Relationship
Friendship language is, 'You look nice tonight.' Desire language is, 'You look hot tonight.'Collection: Friendship
Boldness is sexy, especially when it's done with a wink.
If he doesn't follow through with actions, he's either selfish or a liar. Neither makes him sound like The One, does it?
Love is closeness.
A little flattery goes a long way.
Women want to attract a 'high-value' man. If that's the man you want to attract you have to be high value yourself.
The key to asking someone out is to not really ask. In other words, don't feel your sentence needs to end with a question mark.
By getting hurt, you might realize that what you thought you wanted and needed wasn't actually right for you. And that's a lesson only heartbreak and pain can teach you.
Women all think that if a guy likes you he will come and talk to you. That's nonsense - 'actually the opposite is true. The more attractive he finds you, the less likely it is he'll talk to you.
The need to make sure everyone knows all of the great stuff about us is usually an insecurity in itself.
A simple thank-you goes a long way.
You invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.
Firstly, there is no perfect man. Looking for that it worse than starting the race badly, it means you're in the wrong race. What women should be searching for is their ideal man - i.e. the one whose values, beliefs and outlook on life synergise with their own.
When life hits you hard, it can throw you off course. But how you handle that adversity can teach you so much about yourself and change your perspective on what you actually want from life.
The right man applauds your potential, he doesn't stifle it.
Men feel safe and more open when they know that the woman they're talking to approves of their passion for a particular band/book/cereal.
Guys aren't used to out-of-the-blue compliments.
A man who is invested takes the time to get to know you well, and his gifts will be a testament to his expert grasp of your likes and dislikes.
We live in a very mollycoddled society where the slightest bit of discomfort is seen as wrong, but that discomfort is there for a reason. It's supposed to trigger some form of action, some form of change, a realization of a truth - something, and I think the self-help world has you believing that you should be happy all the time.
Research shows that making eye contact is a powerful draw for guys - even in photos. Just don't mistake duck face for flirty.
Your Friday and Saturday nights are sacred. When a new guy asks for a prime-time date early on, suggest drinks and make him the warm-up.
You have to connect on emotion not logic. People go on dates and it becomes a CV exercise. Logic is someone asking 'what do you do for a job?' when you should ask 'why do you do that? What is it you enjoy?'
So many books are designed to help you with your love life spend their time telling you what you can't do. What I love about 'Get The Guy' is it spends the majority of its time telling you what you can do.
Women often try too hard to say what they think a man wants to hear, to like what he likes, to laugh at every joke, and get so nervous talking about themselves that nothing interesting comes out.
The truth is men like women who are challenging, and set them standards to live up too. Caveat: This doesn't mean he wants someone to neurotically pick at everything all the time.
The guy who wants to spend all his time with you may seem romantic, but he's also the guy who'll try to stop you from doing anything that doesn't involve him. If he presses you to ditch hobbies, passions, and friends, it's time to ditch him.
If you find yourself annoyed at his lazy tendencies early on, be wary - because that's one trait of his that won't magically change when he gets a better job or finally joins that gym.
Choose a guy who has a similar level of drive as you. There's nothing sexy about being your boyfriend's life coach.
A friend of mine once earnestly said to his girlfriend, 'You look so pretty tonight,' and she replied, 'You're such a dork.' Her deflection was a total turn-off. It didn't make him feel attractive, nor did it encourage him to keep complimenting her.
The coolest people reveal themselves gradually, and flirting isn't just about making yourself look great, it's about making him feel great too.
If you look like you're hiding something, we're more likely to swipe left.
Lose the group shot in front of the Eiffel Tower, where it's impossible to tell you from your friends. He's not going on a date with Paris or your entourage, he's going on a date with you and he wants to know what you look like.
If you label someone lazy or a liar, he'll feel like that for life. Worse, guys lose motivation to change when we feel like your perception of us is set in stone.
He's more of a slob than you? Instead of condemning, state your standards: 'I need to live in a place that's clean. I respect that it's not a big deal to you, but it's important to me to enjoy my home.' This removes ego.
Anything that a man hears is sexy is gold to him.
Think of your early dates as a chance to leave clues about your expectations with a little technique called pre-framing. Say: 'My friend gets annoyed because her boyfriend never opens the car door for her. It's a shame when guys don't do those little things.'
The easy way to make your texts sexier? Lose the question marks.
A hint of competition goes a long way with guys.