Warren Farrell
Boys with a 'failure to launch' are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete.Collection: Anger
If women had to promise to provide for a man for a lifetime before he removed his veil and showed her his smile, would we think of this as a system of female privilege?Collection: Smile
When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.Collection: Independence
Nobody really believes in equality anyway.Collection: Equality
All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose.Collection: Women
I don't think there's anything that is a greater area of discrimination against women today than the fact that nowhere in the world is there a female role model in team sports that more than half of a general audience would recognize.Collection: Sports
Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement.Collection: Sports
Men are fair, and they have learned not to personalize anger - they can disagree with you and argue to the bone, but afterward they still consider you a nice person with whom the underlying human relationship need not be altered.Collection: Anger
Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable. Disposable in war; disposable in work. We need warriors and volunteer firefighters, so we label these men heroes.Collection: Society
The Myth of Male Power dealt much more with the political issues, the legal issues, sexual harassment, date rape, women who kill, and those issues were very much more interfaced with the agendas of feminism.Collection: Legal
In fact, the socialization gives us the tools to fill our evolutionary roles. They are our building blocks.
We take men's obligation to earn money, and when they do it well, we blame them for having power and being oppressors. And when they don't do it all, women just don't marry men who are reading 'I'm Okay, You're Okay' in the unemployment line.
Women are the only 'oppressed' group that is able to buy most of the $10 billion worth of cosmetics each year; the only oppressed group that spends more on high fashion, brand-name clothing than its oppressors; the only oppressed group that watches more TV.
The five different areas in which boys are in crisis - education; jobs; emotional health; physical health; and fatherlessness - are handled by different portions of the government.
Feminism justified female 'victim power' by convincing the world that we lived in a sexist, male-dominated, and patriarchal world.
While girls average a healthy five hours a week on video games, boys average 13. The problem? The brain chemistry of video games stimulates feel-good dopamine that builds motivation to win in a fantasy while starving the parts of the brain focused on real-world motivation.
If a man belittles a woman, it could become a lawsuit. If women belittle men, it's a Hallmark card.
We always look at the 'Fortune 500,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards.
I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
And then in 1956 or 1957 my family went over to Europe and I moved over with them, and immediately people in Europe thought my perspective on that issue was 100% correct.
And we reduce almost all male-female problems by working on both the female and the male. And that usually means having both sexes take responsibility.
Feminists have confused opportunity with outcome.
For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.
I started to get very well recognized in the early seventies as the only man in the United States who had been elected three times to the board of NOW in New York City.
In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary.
It evolved from my experience in the fifties, growing up during the McCarthy era, and hearing a lot of assumptions that America was wonderful and Communism was terrible.
Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
Men don't oppress women any more than women oppress men.
One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.
Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.
So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.
The only men who aren't in fear of women's reactions are usually men who aren't born or who are dead.
Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize.
When a man is able to connect with his feelings, he is able to care more.
You could make a case that women addicted men to their sexuality and then withdrew their sexuality until we provided them with a source of income.
Let's face it: men do a lot of things in the workplace that women just don't do.
Companies like I.B.M. have offered women scholarships to study engineering for years, and women engineers routinely get higher starting salaries than men.
Men have not stacked the decks against women.
My wife's income allowed me to do what I really loved. I realized that women's liberation is men's liberation, too.
It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men.
I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.
I don't have children that I've lost in a bitter custody dispute. But I see an enormous wound in kids due to a lack of their dads.
I'm an awfully loyal friend. Once I've started a relationship with someone, it's like they are syrup and I'm a pancake. Their syrup gets into my pancake, so to speak.
Once boys' and men's challenges are clear, the question 'why now' quickly becomes 'why didn't we see this sooner?' The answer? Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable.
Now, since I'm a husband and father, discrimination against women isn't just political, it's personal.
I found that women entrepreneurs earn 50% less than their male counterparts.
Without husbands, women have to focus on earning more. They work longer hours, they're willing to relocate and they're more likely to choose higher-paying fields like technology.
Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men.
Men are likely to be quite generous, especially financially.
A man's primary fantasy is access to a variety of attractive women without the fear of rejection.